What not to say to your partner this Valentine’s weekend when househunting
In the spirit of keeping love alive.
Going apartment-viewing with your significant other this Valentine’s weekend?
In the spirit of love, these are five things you should not say to your partner. You have been warned.
1. “THERE IS NOT ENOUGH WARDROBE SPACE FOR YOU”
Best case scenario: You’re met with a tight-lipped smile, and your partner is cold and frosty to you for the rest of the day.
Worst case scenario: Your partner decides you’re right, and concludes that the only solution is to knock down the wall between the master bedroom and the adjacent bedroom to make room for a walk-in wardrobe.
There goes your home office.
2. "CAN WE GET A LOAN FROM YOUR PARENTS?"
Money is always a touchy subject, but if you really think it is a good idea to ask your partner’s parents for a loan, be sure to approach it tactfully – not out of the blue.
Your partner may think that you’re unambitious, or a gold-digger.
Try this instead: "I don’t think we have enough to afford this place. Let’s sit down and work out our options".
3. "AS LONG AS I HAVE MY MAN CAVE, I'M ALL SET"
If you can’t see what’s wrong with this scenario, here’s an analogy: Say you love your meat, but your partner is vegan. Whenever you’re out on dates, you accommodate and go vegan.
On a whim, you decide to try a new restaurant and your partner says: “I don’t care whether you get your meat – as long as there are decent vegan options on the menu, I’m good”.
Not the nicest thing to hear, right?
4. "I DON'T CARE ABOUT THE KITCHEN, I'M NOT COOKING ANYWAY"
Unless you’re spoiling for a fight, try saying this instead: “Does the kitchen work for you? Is there enough room for us to make dinner together?”
5. "WHAT IF WE FORFEIT THE DEPOSIT?"
No significant other wants to hear this, because it implies that you’re not 100-per-cent certain the property purchase will work out, which in turn, implies that you’re not confident that the relationship will work out.
Cue to melodrama.
This article first appeared on 99.co.